10 Q’s, Identity within the LGBTQ+ Community: Kameer Sinclair

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Kameer Sinclair| Podcast Host|Advocate

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Identity with LGBTQ Community

10 Q’s, Identity within the LGBTQ+ Community: Derrick Cox

 

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Derrick Cox | Activist| Actor| Health Educator

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Identity with LGBTQ Community

1. What does Pride mean to you

A time of true freedom for all to be who they are, no matter how they identify, with no worries or judgment.

2. Describe your relationship with the LGBTQ+ community, how close are you to it?

My relationship with my community is almost equal to the relationship I have with myself. I care too much and I see a need to help and never turn a blind eye to something wrong! I am the community, that’s how close I am to it.

3. What’s do you appreciate about being LGBTQ?

While on the road to building my own platform I’ve earned the respect, love, concern, and support from my community and the fact that they trust me and open up to me so easily is what I appreciate most!

4. What’s the number 1 misconception that grinds your ears about the LGBTQ community?

The constant labels we give ourselves. We want to stand as an individual, but also we want to feel included at the same time. So f*cking irritating.

5. I quite don’t understand this about our community, but I want to know more?

I don’t understand why we feel we have to label, identify, name or change anything that already represented and was set in place for our community but I guess I would want to know why? And, please be a better response than the obvious.

6. Describe your coming out process in 3 words or less?

Entertaining, Disappointing & Relief

7. Who was the first out person you met, how did they impact your life?

He was a young feminine fellow like me, he made me feel comfortable about how I acted or presented myself. He impacted my life by assuring me that I was proud to be who I am, our friendship didn’t last as he was murdered by his brother and his brother’s friends. He was only 10.

8. Any advice for those struggling with coming out?

You have your whole life to discover who you are truly going to be, so right now live and make mistakes. Find out who you are not.

9 I feel most confident about “……….”

Being blessed with the ability to not only make anyone comfortable with me but to also possess the skills to help in any way possible!

10 What would you tell your younger gay self?

Life is full of many challenges and you will go through them, however, you will be ok! Know and believe that!

10 Q’s, Identity within the LGBTQ+ Community: Isaam Houston

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Isaam Sharef | Artist| Youtuber| Writer

Instagram@Isaamsharef

Identity with LGBTQ Community

1. What does Pride mean to you?

Pride for me is loving me for exactly who I am. Despite the many ways people and society try to tell me otherwise, I take tremendous pride in myself and in my contributions to all the communities that I belong to.

2. Describe your relationship with the LGBTQ+ community, how close are you to it?

I work very closely to the LGBTQ+ community. whether it be in my role as an Outreach Worker in one of the leading HIV clinics in my community, or within the content, I create specifically for the LGBTQ+ community through my youtube channel, and mainly through my web series GAY CODE

3. What’s do you appreciate about being LGBTQ?

I appreciate the freedom and acceptance of oneself that gives people who are not within the community the permission to do the same. BE FREE, AND LOVE THEMSELVES.

4. What’s the number 1 misconception that grinds your ears about the LGBTQ community?

The idea of us as predators and sexual deviants.

5. I quite don’t understand this about our community, but I want to know more?

I don’t quite get “gender non-conforming” individuals. I haven’t wrapped my mind entirely around it. While it seems to be gender non-conforming, usually when I see it represented, I see someone who is conforming to a female aesthetic. I see individuals completely immersed in femininity and what that looks like to them.

6. Describe your coming out process in 3 words or less?

Forced, isolating, complicated

7. Who was the first out person you met, how did they impact your life?

The first out gay person I met was my cousin. She identified as bisexual, and while we never had any conversations about my sexuality, I saw a life for me, through her example, of everything that was available to me. That included a relationship, love, happiness, and success.

8.Any advice for those struggling with coming out?

Take away the pressure of having to explain or define your sexuality. It’s yours and you have to figure it out for yourself. True …coming out, give people permission to do the same, but you must explore all parts of your sexuality before u can clearly identify yourself…and remember….no one comes out as straight….so don’t feel the pressure to come out. You do it for you….and no one else

9 I feel most confident about “……….”

My capabilities……and they are endless.

10 What would you tell your younger gay self?

Focus on school…..clubs, pride parades, boys are fun and cute, but baby, you can avoid a lot of bullshit if you focus on education. Get your degree, figure out what your contribution is supposed to be now, not later…get that money…success is waiting for you.

10 Q’s, Identity within the LGBTQ+ Community: Henry Philyaw

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1. What does “Pride” Mean to you?

Pride is the freedom and understanding of your own experience as an LGBTQ person and having perspective and compassion for those who are also in our umbrella even if they don’t represent you or your experience.

2. Describe your relationship with the LGBTQ+ community, how close are you to it?

It’s a lot of love with a sprinkle of haters. I have a few young gay/queer/bi men I have mentored over the years, and I have a transgender niece and a lesbian niece who I support as much as I can in their experience. I have had a platform around sexual positivity that supported or community that I am going back to later this spring. I adore our community but being that I have faced ostracization because I am in a sexually nonmonogamous relationship,  the community hasn’t been that kind to me in that regard.

3. What’s do you appreciate about being LGBTQ?

Appreciate that our expression is limitless. We can be who want to be and mold our greatness in the most awesome way. I love it.

4. What’s the number 1 misconception that grinds your ears about the LGBTQ community? 

That we all have AIDS, that we are sexual deviants, that bisexual people aren’t real, that women lesbians because they hate men, and that transwomen “trick” men.

5. I quite don’t understand this about our community, but I want to know more?

I don’t understand why we are so beholden to Judeo-Christian standards in regards to how we date, engage sexually, and how we manifest interpersonal relationships.

6. Describe your coming out process in 3 words or less? 

Thank You Mom.

7. Who was the first out person you met, how did they impact your life? 

This guy named Juan when I worked at McDonald’s when I was 16 in 1996. It was the first time I saw someone experience HIV stigma even though no one had proof of his status. He was just openly gay and fem. People were so mean to him. He was kind. I learned that we need more kindness in the world.

8.Any advice for those struggling with coming out? 

It’s a process that you do in your own time. Do what makes you comfortable. Set up for your success and find someone you can trust. Being openly gay is a gift, not a prize. Be the best version of yourself but always love your community as they are and get into that unconditional self-love.

9 I feel most confident about “……….”

My emotional intelligence.

10 What would you tell your younger gay self?

The sooner you love yourself as you are, the sooner you will stop negotiating with people. The happier you will be. You are so great as you are and that heart you have will be broken and tried but respect the process. It will always work in your favor.

10 Q’s, Identity within the LGBTQ+ Community: Stevie Lindsey

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Stevie Lindsey | Blogger| Podcast Host

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1. What does “Pride” Mean to you?

Pride means a power that will never die.

2. Describe your relationship with the LGBTQ+ community, how close are you to it?

I’d like to think my relationship with the LGBTQ+ community has definitely increased over the years. With me being such a vocal personality on social media and being apart of an LGBTQ+ podcast entitled “HIM”. I use both my personality and words of wisdom and some comedy to show the beauty in the community.

3. What’s do you appreciate about being LGBTQ?

I appreciate the fact with so many odds against such a powerful community we continue to make sure we aren’t stopped and show our courage whenever and however WE see fit.

4. What’s the number 1 misconception that grinds your ears about the LGBTQ community? 

That the LGBTQ+ community’s main concern is sex.

5. I quite don’t understand this about our community, but I want to know more?

It comes from what they “think” and less about what they “know”. I think that if people did more of getting to know people they would see that it’s more than just SEX in the community.

6. Describe your coming out process in 3 words or less? 

Best Day Ever.

7. Who was the first out person you met, how did they impact your life? 

My aunt had a gay best friend named Johnny and I have to be honest, he was such an inspiration to me. He was so comfortable with who he was that I just knew that I would be just like that, and my life was gonna be something special.

8.Any advice for those struggling with coming out? 

The main advice I would give is that keep in mind that this is your life to live and the most important part of living is living your truth. So when you feel it in your gut go with and everything else will fall into place.

9 I feel most confident about “……….”

My personality, it’s definitely one of the main things I am super confident about. It’s what makes me who I am.

10 What would you tell your younger gay self?

Hey you, you are beautiful and a superstar on the rise! There are definitely gonna be days in your future where you think you have it under control, baby you don’t. But once you find the love for yourself through the good times and the bad, you will be one of the stronger forces on this planet. Keep being a great son, brother, and friend that you are. By the way, your heart is gonna be tested quite a few times–
just go with the flow.